Black. Girl. Magic. Three words that are POPPING and I’m loving it! It took me entirely TOO long to realize how powerful we are and how we can be a force to be reckoned with in this world. I’m just excited to witness everything #BlackGirlMagic new school and old school. I say old school because women like Erykah Badu and India.Arie have always been comfortable in their skin, taught us to love ourselves, and to never give up on our dreams. With this being said, read along to see who has influenced me to never dim my #BlackGirlMagic light.
In no particular order, I proceed….
Queen Erykah Badu
The past few days I have been on a Badu high. I have been listening to the Baduizm album from beginning to end with zero skips. I have always admired and loved Badu, but never did I sit back and listen to the words of her songs, her demeanor, or her creativity to understand the messages she gave to us. When her songs came out when I was younger, of course I jammed to beat and bypassed the actual meaning behind them. I have so much respect for her staying true to herself and never folding in the entertainment business. We all know it’s harder for “us” in any career. In Baduizm she teaches us about finding and leaving love, friendships, not settling and conforming to others, and being yourself always. This woman is bold, free, and believes in herself. For being that, I love her!
Ohhhh India, my girl!! Like Badu, I remember growing up listening to her music and enjoying it, but still missing the messages. AH! This girl told us to love our brown skin, embrace our nappy hair, and even told us she wasn’t the average video girl. Although not knowing anything about the music industry I do know that is definitely hard being your true self and having to “fake” it most of the time. I decided to revisit her albums: Voyage to India and Acoustic Soul to experience her thoughts. I love how she spoke about simplicity of life, love, being comfortable in your skin, peace, and God. We can get so caught up in “stuff” and the glam that we forget ourselves. I thank her for remaining herself and embracing her Black.
“One of the things that I’ve worked my way out of doing, and I knew I need to, was comparing myself to other people. It all of a sudden determines even clothes you’re going to wear that day or what you’re going to do with the music production or how you’re going to sequence it. It poisons everything. Your real job in the world is to be you. Comparing yourself to other people, I think that hurt me more than anything. Allowing myself to go there so much in my head hurt me.”
“Your self-worth is your job. It’s your sacred space to cultivate cause there’s always going to be somebody who comes along and says you’re not thin enough or your hair’s not ‘that’ enough or your voice’s not high enough, you’re not going to make it in the music industry because you don’t sound like all the others. There always has to be somebody who comes along and says something like that but if you remind yourself that they’re wrong because you know your own path. And one of the things I do know after all the healing work I’ve done is I sit in my journal or meditation time what would I do about this thing, whatever it is– sometimes I think its an opportunity I’m not ready for — sometimes it’s somebody telling I can’t or I’m not worthy — and I sit in my private space and I say, I really just play it all out — I can visualize it or I can write it — and I say… What would I do if I knew I was 100% of this? What would I do?
Queen Myleik Teele
On the business side of #BlackGirlMagic, I put boss woman Myleik on the list because she is doing it! She is an example of staying true to your dreams, building your brand and knowing what YOU want to achieve and watch it manifest, with hard work of course. I first discovered Myleik about three years ago from her hair subscription line, CurlBOX. I began to follow her social media platforms and now listening to her podcast as she gives her best advice on entrepreneurship, relationships, interviews other successful entrepreneurs as well as sharing her journey . Her boldness, her honesty, and serve mentality are what keeps me drawn to her. Let me tell you all, she makes sure to drop gems on us women who are seeking entrepreneurship. Most of us weren’t raised in the atmosphere of chasing dreams or making a change to better our lifestyle. She didn’t have a blueprint to this life, but she hustled and worked hard to live the life she dreamed of. She is definitely using her platform and gifts for more #BlackGirlMagic to be made.
This woman is the epitome of hard work, passion, dedication, drive, love, and family. What I love more about Bey is her privacy. She reveals her life on her time and is respected for that. Growing up to Destiny’s Child was so much fun for me and my cousins as we all pretended to be one of the girls. Back then they taught us things about love, men (in good and bad ways) lol, being true to your friends, heartbreak, etc. It’s amazing how we sung those songs with our heart and missed lessons!! Today, I am super grateful for her days in DC and as a solo artist. What makes Bey stand out to me is how deep and creative she can go with her music to tell stories. They make us think and inspire us to go back and learn about our history. Little did I know she has always been family oriented and raised to love her Black. Thanks Mrs. Tina! Nonetheless, no one can deny her art, entertainment and lessons she delivers. She inspires me to keep going, to never give up, and work hard for what I want. No idea is crazy. I’ll forever be a fan!
Mrs. Tina truly hit us with another gem with this girl here. My love for her began with her song “Losing You” way back when. Still then I didn’t realize how different and motivational she was. Solo was one of my inspirations to rock a short hair cut with my natural hair. Her with a buzz cut was my favorite next to Chrisette Michele. In a world full of women trying to be “perfect,” she has always been her true self. When I say true self, I mean she does not have to fake her life to be make it. There are girls out here, like myself, who once wanted to make sure to be pleasing to others. Always thinking about what other people will approve of instead of being your true, inner self. Solo is confident, vibrant, creative, talented and is very unapologetic when it comes to her life. I believe we should always strive to be that way. Of course when she released ‘A Seat at the Table’ I grew to love her more! She has inspired me to move at my own beat, remain confident in myself, and to just be me.
There are many other Black, powerful women that I look up to besides these few, but I just decided to recognize them. As I continue to grow and become wiser, I am recognizing that I am great! Black women are powerful, we are beautiful and we don’t have to conform to this world that strives to downplay our abilities. Each and every day let’s spread some #BlackGirlMagic!
& Remember, Love yoself girl or nobody will!